Jennifer Troy from Glorious Galas, LLC gives advice to those who recently started their own event and wedding planning and coordinating business.
One of her colleagues asked in one of the many bridal groups on Facebook that Jennifer belongs to, if it’s OK for a bride to hold her accountable if the wedding didn’t go as planned.
The issue posed by her colleague is that the couple’s family members were giving her two cents and the interference was such that the wedding was ruined, leaving the couple unhappy because they did not get what they want.
Unanimously, most if not all respondents to her question, said that yes, that she is responsible for allowing things to get out of hand and not giving the couple the wedding of their dreams, essentially what they paid her to conceptualize for them.
But there was an answer in particular that caught our attention, more so that any others and that was Jennifer Troy’s advice in answer to her colleague’s question.
This is what Jennifer had to say…
“Before I begin a rehearsal I introduce myself and remind everyone that we’re here to make the vision of the bride and groom go off without a hitch.
If things go left, I’ll redirect them.
It’s not personal, my job is to make sure that the couple has what THEY want, and we’ve discussed at length what they want so no suggestions are needed.
Most people chuckle but I have resting bitch face so I use that to my advantage.
They know I’m serious. I’m loud and direct. My tone of voice does not falter. I don’t “ummmm, hmmmm”. I am thorough.
I had a few who have tried me, but I’m quick to say “This is not your day. If your opinion was desired, it would have been asked beforehand. There’s only 4 people needed to have a wedding: the bride, groom, minister and witness. We don’t HAVE to have anyone else”.
Most folks pipe down afterwards.
And yes, my bride and groom are very clear that I’ll pull out the bitch if necessary.
As a planner, she was right. It is our job to rein the unruly folk in.
Time to start preparing your own no nonsense allowed speech”.